Yesterday I very clearly told my husband that I had a project to work on and asked him to cook breakfast. You know, at noon since we all slept in terribly late. Then I worked all day on said project. And at 10 I discovered no one had eaten again. So I asked my oldest to please make hot dogs for everyone. This is not hard and required a microwave. I also got the baby a snack of cheese while he waited. This is beyond the lunch he gets just before nap time every day and did get yesterday. At 10:30 when it was discovered that our oldest had only made hotdogs for himself and no one else my husband went off on ME. First. You are their parent too. If you hadn't eaten and we're hungry you very well could have fed everyone again. Second. I told you I was going to dive into a big project and that you were in charge of the kids. So there is that. I did feel bad that I forgot to put dinner in the crock pot as I had intended because we slept so late.
Fast forward to today. We ALL slept til after 11. No, we were not up all night, so I think we're all coming down with the cold our friends have. As soon as I was up and dressed I woke up the older boys and started cleaning up the kitchen. By 1 pm I had the first batch of pancakes coming off the griddle as well as dinner in the crock pot and a clean kitchen. It would NORMALLY be the baby's nap time but he just woke up at 11:30 when I woke him up. So he starts to fuss while the birth batch is cooling enough to eat. I flippantly say "I'm working on it shorty, I'd hate yo have to put you down for a nap before you get to eat." AS A JOKE IN A JOKING TONE. My husband had apparently just gotten up and starts going off on me for being mad at the baby when it's my fault he hasn't eaten all day. I woke him at 11 when I woke up and voiced how frustrated I was that I'd slept so late and he said "eh, it's vacation"
I informed him that I went to work as soon as I got up cleaning and cooking and he continues in on how it's my fault I didn't clean the kitchen the night before and how I'd been awake for 2 hours and should have at least fed him a snack. This is where I stop everyone and say "My baby will not eat when he first wakes up. For nearly an hour after waking he is a jerk about food. He's not hungry. I think he takes after me. Because I don't eat, usually for HOURS AND HOURS." So he's finally hungry, just as I'll pulling food of the griddle, and I'm a bad mom for this?!?
Shut up. I'm not even joking here. I am furious. I hadn't even SAT DOWN since waking up at that moment. I had spent every single minute doing something productive. Dressing children, changing diapers, waking other children, doing dishes, starting both dinner and breakfast, cooking these items. What the hell?????
I understand that he wasn't there to see me doing stuff, but he should have figured I was working on it considering I was literally standing there cooking at that moment.
Rant over.
If you made it this far, I'm surprised. I do get relief from being able to vent this way without complaining to family and friends about these things, because who even wants to hear about our petty issues when they arise? Here's hoping tomorrow we can go back to where we were YESTERDAY morning when we took time to share the things we loved and appreciated about each other.
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