Hurt Feelings

Today was my best friends daughters birthday party. But it wasn't JUST the party. She was doing a huge Thanksgiving dinner for her hub's TWO families (his mom's and his dad's) and then her family. THEN cake and gifts. THEN going to see Frozen 2. I was SUPER excited for it all. Until she told me she hadn't actually WANTED to do it. She was so stressed out that she had to host (she's deep in morning sickness right now) but since His family was fighting over whose house they would have it at, she volunteered to stop the fighting. So I volunteered to lessen the chaos by keeping my brood away and then meeting them at the theater afterwards. She messaged me to let me know that baby girl had decided she needed a late name and they were skipping the theater but that we should come for the cake and gifts. We'd all go to the movies Tuesday. Since my gift was to be the popcorn bucket set at the theater, and since there were still going to be literally a dozen plus people at her house, I figured we'd stay home and work on our own Turkey Feast prep since we're hosting tomorrow. 

She posted on FB hours later pictures of them at the theater. They decided to go to a later showing after all. And didn't message me to join them. 

I'm not going to lie and say that my feelings aren't hurt. Deeply. And when I messaged, just asking if they changed their minds she responded "yes, she perked up after cake and gifts so we got anlier showing" then "You should have come to the party!" 

Now I am REALLY feeling hurt. I avoided it so as to not needlessly add to her stress and the chaos. And I feel as though I'm being punished for it. If I hadn't been SO excited it wouldn't hurt so much. But I put off going to the showings so far this week so I could go with them. Then when she messaged me I was SO tempted to just go to the movie alone, but thought that would be rude, so I'd wait to go with them. 

And they went without me. Maybe I should have added to the chaos anyways, since she DID invite us. Maybe I should have just gone and tried to maybe help clean up the wrapping paper mess or something, something to LESSEN the chaos as much as I could. I don't know. 

All I do know is that my feelings are hurt, and at 30+, I still don't know how to ask her if she did it on purpose and is upset with me for not coming to the cake and presents. Idk.